We’ve all agonized over this one at one point in our lives. The first gift. You don’t want it to be too casual or utilitarian (socks is a no-no), but it also can’t be too serious either (a watch or expensive jewelry may be too much right now too). You also may not know enough about the person to be able to really nail this gift, like if their birthday, Valentines Day or the holidays are two weeks after you’ve started dating, well, that’s a tough one, but not all is lost. Here are some ideas–from, me, the Gifting Whisperer, AND my hubby–so you’re not totally hanging out there with your downtown area exposed. This also marks my mans’ debut on giftingwhisperer.com, and I hope it’s the first of many…or at least the first of a few. Hope you enjoy his romanticism, wit and humor as much as I do.
Early Birds: If you really are in that first 30 day window, go easy on yourself and make a reservation at a nice restaurant. If you’re on a regular date-night schedule, and there is an understanding that you will be together on the day in question (likely a birthday), then you’re cool. If you’re more casual than that, invite him or her by asking what night is good because you want to take them out for (fill in the blank). And make the call, don’t wait for them to call you and then bring it up. This goes for men AND women. It’s 2012.
5 Good First Gifts For A Guy To Give
(by the Gifting Whisperer’s husband)
1. Old Reliable: A dozen red. And I don’t mean a case of wine. (that’s code for roses).
2. A Beginning: Brand new scrapbook that holds only one photo. Of the two of you.
3. Picnic: This can be the traditional kind or what my wife and I now call the “carpet picnic.” It’s all in the ambiance, menu (and the company, of course). Pick a nice spot, be it in your living room or in Central Park. If you need to go to the nearest gourmet shop for the food–fine. Wine, music, a blanket and, if you’re inside, get pillows to sit on, use linens and real glassware and flatware.
4. Surprise Activity: Paint pottery or do some art project together. Make Meaning allows you to let your creative juices flow in ceramics and more. They even have date nights where they offer wine and spirits. Find one near you or look for similar establishments in your area.
5. Get Out Pen & Paper: The good stuff. A handwritten letter, delivered by mail…yes, you will need to buy stamps. It’s old-fashioned in such a lovely way and something your beloved will keep for a long time. And start a private chain love letter. Inside put a self-addressed stamped envelope for her to write you back. In this age of tweets, likes, posts and Pins you can begin your relationship by bringing back a lost art and making all her friends swoon at how romantic you are.
5a. A Catcher’s Mit*: How is she going to have a catch with you if she doesn’t have one?
*NOTE FROM THE GIFTING WHISPERER: The deal my husband and I made was that he would co-write this post with me but I had to include this selection. So you’re also getting some bonus relationship advice: when it’s not life-or-death, compromise.
5 Good First Gifts For A Gal To Give
1. Sports Lover: Get tickets to a local game. If budget is at issue, minor league baseball games, for example, can be much more reasonable and so, so fun. If your honey is also a collector, how about a baseball card from the year he was born or time at a batting cage.
2. Home Stuff: For women this is the kiss of death, but for a guy they tend to appreciate it (I have found). But you have to be observant. Is he making do with a sub-par coffee pot but loves his java–Cuisinart coffee pot–(
$185 On Sale $89.95 Culteryandmore.com). Does he love his iPod tunes, and rely on an alarm clock that can’t dock his MP3–iHome alarm clock–($79.99 Bed Bath & Beyond). Have you guys started watching lots of movies at his house and need access to a better digital catalogue–Roku–(starts at $49.99) or Apple TV ($99).
3. I Like Beer: If your love digs suds, there are a bunch of options. For a real connoisseur, there are glassware sets from Brookstone ($39.99) and Red Envelope ($49.95) that are really nice looking. If you’d rather send him spirits, consider a Beer of the Month Club (starts at $37.75) and he will have a regular reminder of your thoughtfulness–and maybe you’ll even join him as he enjoys your libations.
4. Take Off: Flying Lessons. Yes, you heard me. You know if your sweetie is the type for this kind of gift, but I doubt they will see this one coming and it’s sure to be something they will remember. Letsgoflying.com has 3,000 locations nationwide and all you need to begin, according to these guys is to show up “with a smile and an eagerness to learn.” (approx $99 to start).
5. The Art of Shaving: I turned my husband on to this and now he’s hooked and it smells so yummy it’s a mini gift for you too. First timers, get the starter set ($25).
The Win-Win: Take the pressure off and agree to do something for each other together that YOU BOTH WANT TO DO and you pay for the other–but you’re each paying the same, get it. Get a massage (if you’re not at the couples massage stage just book two massages at the same spa), go to a great tasting night at a hot restaurant, see a hot concert, show or event.
So I hope my man and I have given you some good options to consider. Have other suggestions from you or your other/better half? Share them in the comments.